What is the number one reason guys give for being single? Believe it or not, it's that they're not good looking enough.
When asked "Guys, why are you single?" the responses are many and varied. And as men don't always like to open up about this kind of stuff - at least to one another - we thought that we should provide a summary of the key reasons.
So why do men stay single? Here are the raw, unfiltered and unashamedly honest answers that a wide cross-section of men gave to this one burning question, according to Reddit.
1. Unattractiveness (especially baldness and height)
Hundreds of guys feel their looks simply aren't good enough to attract a partner. But so what if you're not exactly Tom Hardy? It's been proven time and time again that a good personality is the most desirable trait in a romantic partner. Don't let this hold you back!
2. Shyness/Low self-esteem
Not everyone can walk into a room with all guns blazing - it's how you feel that counts. and there's good news - Ladies actually love men who are slightly less brash when it comes to dating. So try not to let a lack of confidence stop you from getting started.
3. Can't be bothered
C'mon guys, really? We didn't want to believe this one, but sadly it's true! Sure, not forcing a relationship definitely isn't a bad thing - but - by not putting yourself out there, your lack of effort could be interpreted as being closed-off and unapproachable. More importantly, your soulmate may be waiting for you. You really have everything to gain.
4. Not interested in relationships
Of course, many users said they were single by choice. Lots of people think flying solo is a bad thing, but this is an assumption which is often made incorrectly. Also, people do change their minds about relationships, commitment and children as they get older.
5. Poor flirting skills
Some guys also talked about their inability to pick up on the signals that women might give in order to flirt effectively. For some people it comes naturally, but sometimes you need to get a few pointers, or watch how someone you admire interacts with others.
6. Introverted nature
The thought of making the first move can be a scary proposition, especially for introverts who prefer to keep to themselves. Don't forget that women like shy guys, but These tips to shine in social situations may give you some ideas on how to break the ice.
7. Recent break up
It's normal to be wary of pursuing new relationships after a breakup. But by carrying that weight with you, you'll never allow yourself to open up to the possibilities that can blossom if you meet someone else you have a bond with. Don't give up!
8. Bad experiences from previous relationships
If you went through a negative experience from a past relationship, you might be inclined to avoid anything that could result in a repeat of that bad point in your life. This is especially true that men are most likely to give up on dating for this reason.
9. No available women
Hmmm... This seems like the kind of over-generalisation that happens when you've convinced yourself that there just isn't anyone out there for you. Have you seen the calibre of wonderful women on the REDDI platform? If you're still struggling then you can check out these tips for online dating, including advise on how to boost your profile to attract the right people for you. Go for it!
10. Being overweight
We all know that maintaining a healthy weight is good for both your body and your mind. But here at REDDI we also know that women find a vast array or body-types attractive. Much as some men prefer curvier or petite women, many women also prefer men with larger frames; we're not all looking for #MagicMike, you know...
In summary, there is never a 'right time' to start taking dating seriously. So, try not to let temporary feelings get in the way of your long term, permanent goals. If you wait until you're a few pounds lighter or your flirting skills are top notch, then you may end up procrastinating forever. So be brave: the time is now, guys!
...and in case you were wondering, here are the rest of the most common reasons men said they're single:
11. Different priorities (We're glad that this one is here, because it's precisely what the REDDI Community has been built for!)
12. Too picky
13. Anxiety when it comes to dating
14. Lack of time
15. Socially awkward
16. Enjoying being single too much
17. I wouldn't make a good partner
18. Poor judge of character
19. Difficult to find women to match with
20. Poor mental or physical health
21. Lack of achievements - waiting until more successful
22. Don't want to be 'stuck' with one girl
23. Don’t know how to start a relationship
24. Lack of money
25. Don't trust the people I date
We hope that all the single men out there find some of these points relatable, and make you feel a little less alone.
Above all we hope that it's clear that these are hurdles that all single people - both men and women - face, and that they can be easily overcome with the right mindset, and of course, the right dating platform.
We're REDDI when you are, guys. What have you got to lose?