Understand yourself on a deeper level and discover if your attachment style is making or breaking your relationships
"All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love."
Your attachment style forms early in life, and is based upon the feelings you experienced as a small child – namely, to what degree you felt safe, understood, seen, and loved.
What many people don’t realise is that your Attachment Style is one of the most influential forces in a relationship. This means that the success - or failure - of a relationship is largely determined by your Attachment Style.
Further, your Attachment Style also impacts your friendships, familial relationships and workplace dynamics.
The first step towards applying attachment theory to your life is to get to know yourself and those around you from an attachment perspective.
Knowing your attachment profile will help you understand yourself better and guide you with your interactions with others. Ideally this will lead to more happiness in your relationships.
The three attachment styles
You love to be close in your romantic relationships, and have capacity for great intimacy. Relationships tend to consume a lot of your emotional energy, with you often becoming preoccupied with a partner or prospective partner, due to your fear of being abandoned or rejected.
You are naturally warm and loving in relationships. You tend to be the ‘rock’ within a relationship. Generally self-aware and emotionally available, you are confident in your relationship abilities and are well grounded – you communicate your needs and feelings well.
You will often want a relationship to work, but are unconsciously very fearful of being close. You may be prone to low self-esteem and lack of trust, therefore giving your partner less kudos or respect than they deserve. Others may describe you as being unpredictable or dramatic.
Why should you date using attachment styles?
How our free 5-minute attachment test can boost your relationships by helping you to choose more wisely
"All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love"
1. Only connect and date compatible matches
Match with others who you are more compatible with - no more time wasting going on dates with those less suitable.
2. Gain a greater understanding of yourself and how you view others
Helping you to choose more wisely when getting involved with someone, leading to longer lasting, sustainable, happy, healthy relationships.
3. Meet people who make you feel good in a relationship.
Only date people who make you feel good in a relationship - removing the risk of entering a relationship, which leads to unhappiness.