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Counterfeit Connection: How to Recognise That You’re Actually in a ‘Situationship’

3 identifiers that signal you’re not in relationship territory anymore

When Dorothy was magically whisked away to Oz in that all too familiar iconic film, she looked at her dog with both concern and confusion, and uttered that classic line, “Toto, I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.”

But despite its fictitious storyline, one can’t help but draw parallels between the wacky world Dorothy encountered while on her quest to find The Wizard of Oz, and the modern dating scene, where that similarly bizarre landscape has become far too grim of a reality for many of the singles who are still searching for a meaningful connection.

And as society has advanced, so has the proliferation of new terms and phrases, especially those within popular culture. Enter in – ‘The Situationship’. Yes, as if we didn’t already have enough ‘ships’, right? Relationships, Friendships, and Courtships – oh my! And for those seeking a truly fulfilling partnership with a mate, this situation is something you’ll clearly want to avoid. So, let’s look at three ways to that you can try to establish whether you have indeed boarded the wrong ‘ship’.

1) Situationship vs. Friends with Benefits (FWB)

In case you were wondering exactly what a situationship entails, it is considered a relationship of a romantic or sexual nature that is not necessarily established or well-defined, as a more traditional, monogamous relationship would be. Now, you may be thinking, isn't that just a newfangled way of describing a friends with benefits arrangement? Believe it or not, there is actually a marked difference between the two. With an FWB, the two people involved typically start as platonic friends that eventually engage in sexual activity - while a situationship is like a close cousin to the hook-up that tries to sound less offensive.

2) Consistently Inconsistent

A majorly visible sign you’re in a situationship is there is absolutely zero consistency. This means that your significant other may express interest in you one day, and then practically forget your name the next. The communication is usually subpar at best. If plans to hang out are made, they’re most likely done at the last minute - or even as an afterthought. And unfortunately, inconsistency generally hints at the fact that the person is probably seeing someone else other than you; or at least, setting their sights elsewhere.

3) You’re On Pins and Needles

Sometimes, looking inward and examining your own behaviour provides greater clarity than simply observing the actions of others. Translation: how does the conduct of the person you’re with in this situation affect you? Do you feel a heightened sense of anxiety when your calls and text messages go unanswered for prolonged periods of time? If so, this could be your body’s way of trying to tell you that the situation you are in is neither healthy nor sustainable. Loving relationships should never leave you feeling anxious, paranoid or empty.


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