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Transforming Your Anxious Attachment Style: A Path to Greater Relationship Security


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Anxious to Secure is it possible?

Having an anxious attachment style can be a challenging journey, but the silver lining is that it's entirely possible to evolve towards a more secure attachment style in your relationships.


In this article, we'll explore three distinct methods to help you transition to a more securely attached mindset. These methods include behavioral adjustments, body-centered practices, and the imaginative power of your mind.


Behavioral Changes: Unveiling Patterns in Your Relationships


The first and perhaps the most straightforward approach to shedding your anxious attachment style is by observing and altering your actual behaviors within your relationships. While it may sound simpler in theory than execution, it's a natural step in your journey of self-discovery.


As you delve into the world of attachment styles, you'll find yourself eager to identify your specific attachment style and that of your partner. This knowledge is vital as it empowers you to recognize how your attachment style influences your relationships.


Picture this: When faced with a complex task, your instinct is to consider the first step. Similarly, your path to becoming more secure in your relationships begins with acquiring knowledge about anxious attachment. This newfound understanding allows you to start discerning patterns in your relationships. If you've experienced multiple romantic relationships, take a moment to compare them. Analyze what your partner did or didn't do, and what your own actions and reactions were in each scenario. Seek the common threads that tie these experiences together, and you'll unveil valuable insights into your attachment style.


This process also aids in identifying your triggers, highlighting areas where personal growth and healing may be necessary. For instance, have you repeatedly found yourself in relationships where you yearned for more quality time and commitment?


Did particular topics surface frequently, leading to arguments or criticism?


Conversely, were there relationships where everything seemed harmonious, only for them to unravel suddenly? It's crucial to note that not every pattern is directly linked to your attachment style. Some patterns may arise from differences in personality or preferences.